Did You Know Once You Heal Your Inner-Child, Then You Will Feel Confident In Letting Go of Your Limiting Beliefs
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Hola. If you’ve been following this newsletter, then you know I’ve been on a spiritual journey. I’ve been open to letting angel numbers guide me through life, and my guardian angels are helping me figure out my lightwork mission in life.
Being on a spiritual journey isn’t all fun and rainbows. It’s hard work because you have to truly face yourself. No leeway. No more hiding. No more ignoring things about yourself that you may not have realized. Even though the journey can be quite intimidating at times, it’s well worth it! I’ve learned so much about myself, and for that, I’m truly grateful.
I do have a life coach. Emily Moyer’s “Path To Purpose” course is helping me build confidence and helping me let go of the past. I want to share what I’ve learned about limiting beliefs and your inner-child. Understanding these concepts and how to heal from them will help you feel unstuck in life. I promise you.
Your Inner-Child
Many of us grow up trying to avoid our emotions. We learn it’s better to repress, numb, ignore them—especially the painful ones. For a moment, consider the last time you felt anxious, stressed, or upset about something. Did you feel it fully or did you try to escape it in some way?
As children, many of us received negative messages about feeling emotions. Our parental figures said things like:
“don’t cry”
“go cry in your room”
“don’t be so emotional”
“don’t be so sensitive”
“stop being the victim”
“don’t be such a cry baby”
These messages leave imprints. They tell us it’s “bad” to feel emotions. Over time, as adults, we continue to believe this as truth. We blame ourselves and feel shame for experiencing painful emotions.
The truth is, our emotions are just that—an internal guidance system. We are not only meant to feel them, but we are meant to know how to interpret the message they carry and use them to help us make decisions, to support our healing, and to guide our path.
It’s been reported that our emotional reactions reflect only 20% of what’s happening in the moment. 80% is rooted in an old story, wound, or trauma. Haven’t you ever reacted to something strongly out of the blue?
I have.
I don't like bosses giving outlandish requests without hearing my concerns. I can relate this to my 19 year old self back in college. I was a resident assistant and during a staff meeting, a manager was very dismissive of my concerns that she was totally changing our night staff work hours to accommodate someone they had just fired as a RA. They fired him as a RA because he was dating one of his residents but let him remain on night staff. I ended up quitting and getting others to quit too (night staff). Didn't feel bad about it at all.
Going even further, there was a time in elementary school when I told my dad there was no school that day. Instead of listening to me, he drove me to school and wasted his gas. He did this even when the bus hadn't arrived. He didn't believe me until the parking lot was empty.
The trigger is people not listening to me and thinking they know it all just because they're older. I hate being dismissed, especially when I bring up valid concerns and thoughts. I want to be in a teamwork environment, not a dictatorship, Now that I know where the trigger is coming from, I can be less defensive and can calm my breathing. I can't control other people's actions and words, but I can control what I let get to me and what I choose to ignore for my peace of mind.
Before you can heal, you must meet your inner-child. Inner child= imprints collected as a child. Those imprints still exist in your wiring. By acknowledging and working with your inner child, you intentionally call old wounds to the surface to be processed. Be patient with yourself, take your time, and let yourself deeply feel and experience everything that comes up for you.
Here’s some journaling questions you can use (after grabbing an old photo of yourself):
Who is she/he?
How old is she/he?
What is she/he feeling as she/he smiles (or doesn’t smile) in that particular way?
What do I feel for this little girl/boy I still carry inside me?
What do you see in her/him?
What would you want to say to her/him to show unconditional love and compassion?
Limiting Beliefs
Our limiting beliefs are “gifts.” They are here (just like everything else) for our healing, growth, and expansion.
Have you ever thought any of these things?
That’s not possible for me?
I can’t do that.
I’m not good enough.
That could never happen to me.
I’m just bad at that.
He/she is going to leave me.
I’m too ___________ (aggressive/sensitive/bossy/lazy)
A limiting belief is a thought that we have come to believe as a truth about ourselves that inherently limits our lives. It’s any negative self-talk, thought loops, or even just flat out negative “personality traits” about ourselves.
Here’s the thing about limiting beliefs: we see them as truth. We come to believe we’re just “wired” in a certain way. We see our personality traits as something unchangeable—static and defining.
We have the power to change our minds. Through techniques like mindfulness, we can create enough space between ourselves and our thoughts to make a decision (from our higher self) if a thought is one we would like to continue having. And since our thoughts over time become beliefs and beliefs create our reality, if we don’t like what our reality looks like, we can change it at the belief level. And/or if we don’t like the belief itself that is rooted in our systems, we can decide to unlearn it—reversing the process and replacing it with a new one.
Was there anything a parental figure told you that you couldn’t do or weren’t good enough at (subtly or directly)? What messages did your parental figures, teachers, or even friends send to you about what you “should” do with your life? How has that affected the choices you’ve made?
So, if you had a chance to meet your inner-child, would you take it? Next Sunday, March 21st at 3pm EST, I’m hosting an art event for people to discover their inner-artist to discover their inner-child.
Click on the link for more details—Draw With Yawatta art event
If you’re interested, leave a comment on this blog post, and I’ll give you a discount for 100% off (normal price is $10). I’d like you to join the art workshop for free as a thank you for being a subscriber to my spiritual newsletter :)
If you’re interested but don’t want to join a public event, then I’ll work with you one-on-one at a convenient time for you. Just let me know :)
Before you say “I can’t draw” or “I can’t do it”, just know that’s a limiting belief. Prove to yourself “yes I can!”
Keep smiling,
Yawatta Hosby